In another post we looked at gaslighting. Unfortunately gaslighting itself can be used as a means to control the narrative and to deny another their reality. Discerning between what is gaslighting and actual cognitive distortion in a relationship is a crucial … Read more

The term “gaslighting” has become a catch-all and therefore misused. Here we’ll look at gaslighting and in a related entry we’ll look at cognitive distortions to make an important inter-personal and clinical distinction. What is gaslighting? Gaslighting[1]The term has its … Read more

Three years ago I received a dog. He’s everything that a certain set would tell me he shouldn’t be: a pure breed (Wirehaired Vizsla), he was flown over from a foreign country (Hungary) and he has a relentless instinct to hunt. … Read more

There are now countless YouTube videos extolling the benefits of not consuming alcohol. While I largely agree with what’s on offer a simple but profound benefit is overlooked: Eliminating alcohol helps rid us of regret. Even without a blistering hangover, or hangxiety, … Read more

In another entry we looked at freeing oneself to begin. Today we’ll look at the simple act of beginning itself. How do we, especially those of us prone to chronic procrastination, get ourselves to begin? The answer, really, is to … Read more

One of my all-time favorite reflections on the creative process comes from an interview between musicians Daniel Lanois and Brian Eno. Lanois is attempting to make “a film that’s beautiful in itself, about beauty” and he asks for a reflection. … Read more